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After the stillbirth of her son and the birth of her daughter a year later, a mother reflects on parenting after loss. She shares the truths she hopes to teach her daughter about grief: it isn’t a lesson, a burden to fix, or something that simply disappears. Instead, love and grief can coexist, and families can remember those they’ve lost while growing together.

After losing her daughter Scarlett moments before birth, Lynn Farrales describes how grief shifted from an abstract idea to a full-body, life-altering experience. The loss shattered her identity and reshaped how she holds joy, sorrow, relationships, and healing. Through rituals, symbols like snowdrops, and rejecting forced positivity, she honours grief as an essential part of being wholly human.

My sweet Sylas 🤍, 2026 is here, and I’m not ready. I’m not ready to leave you in 2025. You came into 2024 and we welcomed 2025 together. We took this picture right at midnight. You stayed with us into mid January, long enough to wrap our hearts in your love. And now the thought of stepping into a year that doesn’t have you in it feels unbearable. It feels wrong. It feels scary. It feels empty. I don’t want to let go of you. I don’t think I ever will. I love seeing your name

I have been a student of grief for over 50 years. On a personal level, it began at my mother’s death when I was 21 years old, with...